Coinciding with the July 2012 Ultimate Blog Challenge, I have decided to also participate in the 30 Day Letter Challenge in which I will write 30 letters to various folks who have touched my life directly as well as inadvertently. The letter for Day Nine is to be written to someone I wish to meet.
To the person who coined the following phrase,
“PUT ON YOUR BIG PANTIES AND DEAL WITH IT!”
I’d really love to run into you one day and find out what the hell is the matter with you. From my perspective you seem like the type of person with no regard for the feelings of others, or maybe simply the type of person with a blithe outlook on all things human. I can’t decide which. What I do know is that never, ever in the history of forever has someone told me to put on my big girl panties and deal with it, and come across as helpful.
Usually when I hear someone toss off that remark it is in response to someone complaining about something they need to handle. Yeah, sometimes people need a little boost to get things done, but as someone who often complains about doing things that fluster me, I ‘m not inspired to do great things when you mention panties and dealing.
I suppose the phrase is sort of like the older motivational gem “pull yourself up by the bootstraps.” I’m willing to bet that folks in the early 19th century enjoyed hearing that phrase nearly as much as the new and improved version. They have their similarities; bootstraps and panties. What is it with sucking it up and items of clothing anyway?
In closing, I am requesting that you coin a new and more sensitive phrase that inspires more motivation and less total irritation when dispensed. When I need encouragement I need positivity- not useless sarcasm.
Now I must get on to more pressing things, like the laundry I don’t want to do and he homework that sits unfinished on my desk.
What’s that you say? Put on my big girl panties and deal with it?
Sorry, no can do. My big girl panties must be in the wash.